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Neshama 
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Know! You need to judge every person favorably, even someone who is completely wicked, you need to search and find good points within him.
By finding in him a little point of good and judging him favorably you actually bring him over to the side of merit and you can bring him in Teshuva… (LM 282)
 ואהבת לריעך כמוך
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Neshama, thank you for all of your blessings and words of Torah, but in truth, if I understood the hashkafa of Rabbi Brody shlita and Rav Arush shlita correctly, then anything wrong that one sees in their "better half" is really a reflection or magnification rather of the wrong within one's self.
Rabbi Israel Baal Shem Tov zy'a also taught based on the Talmud in Kiddushin that anyone who disqualifies his friend, does so with his own blemish. The Lubavitcher Rebbe shlita also explained this in a sicha. He said there that a perfect tzadik will not see any evil in anyone since he has no evil within himself, iirc.
May Hashem help us all to return in teshuva, b'chesed ubrachamim - amen.
Btw: myself I need to figure out how to be bsimcha. Rabbeinu zy'a teaches that it is a big aveira to be sad when one starts serving Hashem, R'L! Edited by jewishhiphop - 12 July 2007 at 02:43 |
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BS"D  Every single Jew has a point in them that is uniquely precious. And it is with this point that he bestows upon, enlightens, and arouses the heart of others.
We all need to accept this arousal and this unique point from each other. As it says “And they receive one from another” (Isaiah 3)… (LM 34)  |
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ahuvab
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Dear Aaron,
My recipe for keeping happy is as follows.
Focus on what is right in your life. No point in pondering on how wonderful things would be if they were different. But still daven for what you want.
Don't try too hard to be perfect. Lower the demands on yourself and others - be dan yourself lekaf zechut. If you feel you need to improve in certain areas don't get 'emotional' about it. Just say you will try and work on it slowly. Think of HaShem as being very compassionate and patient, willing to wait for the time it takes for you to get there.
Do not become frustrated with people. Just accept that some people have difficulties and sympathize with these even if they are behaving obnoxious.
Don't compare yourself to anyone. You are an individual with an individual mission. (Yet be prepared to learn from others.)
It's a mitzva 'gedola' to be happy because it ain't easy. But it ain't that difficult either. The above has worked for me B"H. Of course there's always room for improvement.
Always think positive. A problem is an invitation for you to grow. If you wish to give me your mother's name, I'd be happy to ask for you.
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Know! You need to judge every person favorably, even someone who is completely wicked, you need to search and find good points within him.
By finding in him a little point of good and judging him favorably you actually bring him over to the side of merit and you can bring him in Teshuva…"
Our job is to find good points within a person who is seemingly a rasha, thereby elevating him and giving him the opportunity to do teshuva. However, Rebbe Nachman says "finding a little point of good" we can elevate that person. In other words, we don't have to hide our head in the sand and pretend that someone who is not ok really is ok, but we do have to be aware of and try to focus on that person's good nekuda. I recently lectured on this point in the US, and people asked me such questions as, "But what if someone is really mean and terrible...." The answer: no, we are not to suffer abuse and we must be realistic and protect ourselves, yet, on the other hand, we can still try to look for the positive in that person -- that small tiny point (nekudot can be very small) of goodness. It's similiar to the halachot of Lashon Hara --
Debbie
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It's important 2 remember our appreciation of what Hashem has given us and the kindnesses received from other people.
One who continues 2 focus on this - will fell greater happiness from all that he has
 this will help him grow in the trait of gratitude.Whenever someone helps us, we need 2 remember what was our situation B4 this person helped us, and this will make us appreciate every little thing that others do 4 us, cause even gaining a smile that wasn't present on our face just a moment ago - is A HUGE thing. . .
Tons of
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The way I understand this finding the nekuda tova even in a rasha is to contemplate that really, this rasha would prefer not to be a rasha. This is his nekuda tova. Only he hasn't yet obtained the tools that will help him fight evil and we should pray for him that he shouldn't succeed in his evil so that (we aren't hurt) and he gives it up! |
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Thanks for all the good advice and words of wisdom. This Torah of azamra, seems to be one of the fundamental teachings of Breslov Chassidism from what I can tell, and it is an amazing idea. I think that generally when a person sins, they are attracted to fallen sparks of divinity that have fallen into the kelipot, realms of impurity, due to the shattering of the vessels (Arizal) and the general state of exile etc. When one who has sinned (as most people have), does teshuva for their sin, then they elevate the fallen spark of g*dliness back up into the realm of kedusha and avodat Hashem, imho. The main danger would seem to be that when one does a sin, they do not know for sure, that they will be able to overcome all obstacles and do teshuva while they still have free will, but there is also a saying of our Sages that "ain davar omed bifnei haratzon" - nothing stands in the way of the will. May Hashem help us to transform all of our sins into merits through the song of the geula, Na Nach Nachma Nachman MeUman, amen.
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"Remember what Hashem your G-d did to
(Devarim 24:9 Parshat Ki-Tetze).
This is a command of the Torah. Some siddurim say it should be said everyday.
The We are not merely commanded, "Not to go around being tale- bearers amongst your people"
Hostility is the root cause of lashon-hara - hostility against your fellow Jew.
Two Jews who are neighbors, and perhaps they hate each other, are constantly vying with each other, trying to outsmart each other. However, they themselves are the only ones who are being outsmarted, and it is the
This Jew is not your enemy. You have no enemies except for yourself, and except for the
"When a camp goes out to war against your enemies" (Devarim 23:10).
Your enemy is not that other man. Oh, he may want to kill you, but he can only take away your life.
The He is the real enemy.
The " crossroads to welcome men coming home from battle.
He told them, "Welcome home from the battle, now welcome to the real battle."
- "What do you mean?" they asked.
- "Now begins the battle against the came the answer. What is the remedy?
" its antidote - the Torah".
are on Earth, therefore let your words be few" (Koheles 5:1).
of developing fear of Hashem: be quiet.
By endlessly wagging your tongue, you are saying, 'There is no Hashem,' as it says, "Those who speak lashon-hara, it is as if they are denying the existence of Hashem".
all is heard, fear Hashem" (Koheles 12:13).
We need to fear Hashem, and a person must train himself or herself to be quiet and not to speak, and this will engender fear of Hashem.
Speaking endlessly means the denial of Hashem.
Fearing Hashem (Yira'at Shamayim) means a person will guard his tongue, and if a person learns to guard his tongue, he will be able to achieve the crown of Fear of Hashem.
(Based on "The Path Of Life"/Rabbi miller)
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When looking at a Jew, say: I Love that person because he is a Tzelem Elokim, and Every Jew is a holy person and a child of Hakadosh Baruch Hu. |
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Hi Ahuva, sorry for the late response. Baruch Hashem, I am doing a little better in the simcha dept now than when I wrote that previous post. I have been going through somewhat of a recovery process. My Mother's name is Vicky (I don't know what her Hebrew name is.) Thanks very much, may the one who blesses also be blessed!
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Aaron is that you? I didn't realize. Welcome back!!!! You have been in my prayers till today, Aaron Binyamin ben Vicky. Promise. I thought you might have been going through some kind of 'process'. Was wondering whether you returned to Chabad..... nice to have you back. I write a lot less now due to time constraints. Baruch rofeh cholim.
I just heard such a powerful shiur by Rav Arush (live from Chut shel chessed) about hodayah and how thanking Hashem even for what apparently is something bad results in one seeing miracles. He said that Ish Gam Zu was called upon when miracles were needed precisely because of this - thanking Hashem no matter what.
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Hi Ahuva, yes its me... I was actually in the hospital for some time but baruch Hashem, I am doing much better now. Thank you for keeping me in your prayers.
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It says I created the Yetzer Hora, but I created "TAVLIN" to fight him, and that’s Torah... It says TAVLIN, which is a spice, what is a spice? It gives taste, but it’s not the main dish, god didn't say, I created torah which is like meat, fish which is a main dish... Because god wants us to learn the entire day, but not every Jew is made to sit the entire day and learn, that’s why he said Tavlin, because he wants us to spice up our life with Torah, if you aren’t able to sit the entire day and learn, if that’s not you, spice up your life, your day with Torah, do what he wrote in the Torah, respect and help the people that do learn the entire day… Smile to every human being, make them happy, make yourself happy, ivdi et hashem b’simcha, that’s the spice that god gave us, which is the best weapon to fight the yetzer hora…
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Sometimes the best way to show true love to our fellow Jews is by strengthening them with words of faith and joy, comfort, etc. Especially in these last days when faith is under all out attack in all parts of modern society. We must do all we can to strengthen each other!!!
BTW, I started a little blog in order to try encourage and strengthen our faith through essays on faith and prayer, etc.: http://yyhayyim.blogspot.com/ Stop by and please share your thoughts  All the best, Yohanan Hayyim Edited by yyhayyim - 29 September 2009 at 23:08 |
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is there a difference between the jewish and the bnai noah mitzvah of self love?
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I was learning in a Shiur on Sunday about the Jewish People in the desert argueing with Moshe because they were thirsty. Than Moshe stroke the rock and water came from the rock. Afterward there was the attack from Amalek.
Perhaps we need two different approach: on one side to look favorably other people and sometime when we feel we have yet some problem, to solve them. From the Torah point of view it seems that the right way to solve "problems" is to pray to Hashem. To show that we have the need and then we are answered. Otherwise if we argue then it looks like we would create the possibility to the physical Amalek the do battle to us. Perhaps it is always a good thing to try to solve our past problem, which are still alive in us. To be at peace with oureself. Sometime we are not aware that we still have such problem. Perhaps it is very important to find the way to be very joyfully with bnei noach or with people that are not religeous.
The joy solve a lot of problems on her own. Edited by Jedida - 08 December 2009 at 14:28 |
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The "green stone or rock" was a special altar in Hitite culture / Empire for their religious offerings. Maybe it is the reason why afterward it cames a strugle with Amalek -I think it is said that cananites were the son of hitites-. And very probably it is so because after have been desapeared the hitite empire by a revolution from inside, its citizen were push to look for a new State, Religion maybe inside Canaan but yet with some special habits as idolatry what at the end provoke a war inside and at Mount Sinai with the molten calf.
I think there was idolatry while people were testing G-d for miracles as the rock represents, but they had to receive a high price for it as it was the way for cleaning their sins by battling with Amalek. The question is why G-d permited to do this miracle, inho because it was not for incentiving idolatry but for a new prove that one must trust in G-d by a learning way very close as to hitites G-d did, in its ancient time; which was into a low level of attachment to G-d instead of, the new revolutionary attachment represented in Sinai ...the given Torah "chance"; G-d is abstraction and can not be difined but Hi/She is around Sorry again I think I am very inspired in Chanukah...sorry! Edited by Javier - 16 December 2009 at 21:22 |
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"Surely if you improve yourself, you will be forgiven, but if you do not improve yourself,sin rest at the door. Its desire is toward you, yet you can conquer it" |
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if a person has a low self esteem, is this a sign of low self love?
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i would think so, but Baruch Hashem Rebbe Nachman teaches us how to go beyond that low self-esteem, by attaching oneself to the Tzaddik Emet and by seeking out one's "good points"
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