If there is a sin that catches me up, above all others, it seems to me it is lashon hara, evil talk. Evil talk in this instance is the art of the snake – the negative talk that is true, as opposed to slander which is the spreading of lies. One would have to be deaf and blind not to come to the conclusion that on a global level this is an extremely common problem with which even conscientious people struggle.
I've learned a couple of really powerful tools for dealing with people i have resentments. (Resentment is the replaying of the event over in my mind, showing how wrong they were and how right i was.sound familiar?) 1) Pray for them for not what you think they need but for what you pray for yourself. 2) I lost a lot of resentments when i realized not to take it personally. Did the person act that way because its me or would they have acted that way to anybody? Made it much easier for me to let it go.